
*inhales*The phrase “hurt people hurt people” is the worst of victim blaming rolled together with the worst of abuser permissiveness delivered with a shot of weaponised compassion and I wish people would think more about it.Survivors are burdened with enough.This catchy phrase passes the lips of people without them giving a second thought to what they’re doing to survivors.It feels like “marry your rapist”It feels like “you’re as responsible for this as he is”It feels like: “you have to forgive and leave the rest to God”It feels like “it’s in you forever”It feels like “you never were deserving of the compassion you should have received for being hurt”I’m not a rapist, stalker, bully, wilfully discriminatory asshole or harasser, despite everything that has happened to me. I wouldn’t visit that on another human being, I was like that before these things happened to me, I’m still like it after.These pithy sound bites don’t hold up in the slightest behind the closed doors of the therapy ro…