Being a victim is almost always a way to control someone else. Whether we realize it or not, we're trained since we are children to use our actions to get what we want from others. As a baby, you understood that crying would get you attention. As a kid, you may have learned that getting good grades gets you praise or being nice gets you compliments. Or maybe you learned that if you make fun of other people, no one would bother you because they didn't want to be made fun of.We do this as adults too! We please our friends, our families, our coworkers so they like us and support us. Or we sulk and complain and whine and give others the silent treatment to get what we want. We'll do everything but have that honest conversation about how we're feeling because that's too scary. Because then, what if our feelings our invalidated?And it's in these situations that we must reclaim our power through communication. It’s no one’s job to read your emotions and figure out how you’re feeling. Find tho…
